The Suck List!

We are always looking for the perfect words to adequately describe situations in our lives.  Our brains search through tons of words to come up with just the right adjective to put a mental image with our words.  There are times that things are just so bad, so horrible, so disgusting, and so unbelievable that the only words that will do are...............This Sucks!

A dear friend of mine explained  that when her children were young she wouldn't let them say suck!  She believed it was an inappropriate word for a young child, however when her children became teenagers that changed.   Her teenagers had to help with a cleaning project that was disgusting to say the least.   My friend told them, " Sometimes all you can do with something sucky is to define it and put it on a list!"   That's how, "The Suck List," was born.  To this day her family still puts things on the list that truly suck to them.

So I'm going to start my own, " Suck List," to give proper attention to those moments in my life that really, "Suck!"  I will be deliberate with my list, as not everything that happens in my life deserves such a catchy phrase. 

Hmmmmm........what should I put on my list? 

1. Well , the first item on my list is, standardized testing.   I am a former teacher forced to retire due to my disability.    When I did teach I had to gave standardized tests to my students. The students got so nervous on that day.  They could do nothing the entire day but test, and I could do nothing but actively monitor every torturous moment.   The whole day I wished that I could be teaching my precious students.   Don't get me wrong, I do believe that students need to be assessed and teachers need to be accountable for their teaching, but standardized testing, "That Sucks!"  

2.  This is gross, but sometimes my cat pukes up fur balls that would rival Donald Trump's comb over.   In fact you might swear it was his actual hair laying on the floor.   When I wake up in the morning and have to face that staring up at me from the floor........."That Sucks!"

This is kind of fun so let me list some more.

3. When I try to walk like I'm not disabled, I end up looking like I'm a drunken sailor, "That Sucks!"

4. When my grandson wants me to run and jump with him, and my disability keeps me from it, "That Sucks!"

On and on I could go, but I'll stop there.  Just remember when you are looking for just the right words to define a moment in your life, sometimes there is absolutely no better words than, "That Sucks!"

What would you put on your list?

Relaxation..........why have you forsaken me?

These two pictures pretty well sum up my feelings.

     I need to be in a relaxed state.......


I need to be in a relaxed state.......

     to get through medical testing!


to get through medical testing!

When you have a disease you are going to have your fair share of medical testing.  During  my journey I have faced quite a few medical tests , and each and every one caused me crippling anxiety.  I'm not sure why I have such a hard time relaxing , but I do.  I have various theories on the root cause of my anxieties:  Maybe it's because I'm a control freak and I feel out of control, or maybe I feel like diagnostic tests are going to find something really bad going on in my body.  I think I'll go with the control freak scenario.  When I have medical testing done, I always hear the word "relax" from the medical professionals.  I understand what it means to relax; however the execution of the word is a problem.  There are a few relaxation tips I have read about in case you suffer like I do

1.  Knowledge is power- Learn as much as you can about your procedure or test.  Talk with your Doctor beforehand and let them know about your fears.  He or She can lead you down the right path to find the information you need.  Never be afraid to ask questions!

2.  Breath control- Controlling your breath is critical during your test.  When we get nervous we have a tendency to breath way too fast.  You also need to make sure each breath is deep and not shallow.  

3.  If you are so anxiety ridden that no matter how hard you try you can't relax, talk to your Doctor about the possibility of taking an anti-anxiety medication.  To be totally honest, there have been times I've had to go this route.  Been there, done that, and it's led to successful tests.

There you have it!  I hope during your next medical test you are in a zen like state.

Here are a few articles that give great tips to help put you in a relaxed state.|/new-blog-1/2016/3/7/relaxationwe-really-need-some

Do you have trouble relaxing during medical test?


Until next time,



Simple Pleasures in Life......a necessity for the soul!

I'd rather have roses on my table than diamonds on my neck.” 
― Emma Goldman                                                                                                                                    

On my journey through this world, there are times that my soul needs nurturing.  It isn't just when times are tough.  There are times in your life when you just need a pick me up.  When those moments in life arrive that require something special, simple pleasures restore my soul and energize me to continue my daily journey.  Every human has something that makes them feel happy, with a hint of giddiness.  It doesn't have to be something expensive or something that's overly complicated to give you a few moments of pure joy.  Some examples of a simple pleasure: Vanilla Blue Bell ice cream, ever so cheesy pepperoni pizza, manicures and pedicures, frosted flakes before bed, tomato soup and a grilled cheese sandwich, line dried sheets, fresh flowers for your house, European butter, and the list goes on and on.  In my journey as a disabled person, there are times when my body seems to be violently attacking me.  So that is why the simple pleasures of life have become even more important to me.

Here are a few of the simple pleasures that nurture my soul:

 A steamy, hot mug of coffee

A steamy, hot mug of coffee

  A brand new magazine. I love magazines!

A brand new magazine. I love magazines!

 Cooking a simple meal for my family .

Cooking a simple meal for my family.

So there you have it. A few of the simple pleasures that make my heart smile.

What are the simple pleasures that nourish your soul?